A lot of youths these days are finding it more and more difficult to
avoid fornication. They are coming up with less reasons to keep that
part of themselves under wraps until they have ‘officially’ committed to
their partners.
Apart from the religious motivation for waiting till marriage to have s*x, here are some other reasons that should convince you.
1. You focus on what is important: Often times, when an unmarried couple
start having s*x, their relationship tends to revolve around s*x. They
forget that dating also means getting to know your partner in other
ways. But taking s*x out of the equation will enable your both focus on
building a more healthy foundation for your union.
You get to really know each other, build trust, connect emotionally and bond in ways that would last you your entire marriage.
2. You weed out users: For women, it is important to make the right
choice when picking a partner. A lot of men are out there whose sole aim
is to use women for sexual favours. When a woman then refuses this and
is determined to save herself for marriage, she makes sure that only the
one fully and ready to commit to her, get underneath her clothes.
3. You have something to look forward to: Marriage, while challenging,
is supposed to also be an exciting event and one reason for this
excitement is that couples are looking forward to knowing each other in
ways they never did while dating. Holding-off on s*x until the wedding
night would give you a reason to look forward to your day.
4. Prevents you from confusing love and lust: Sex sometimes causes
confusion when dating. Having regular sex with your partner could blur
your vision and make it difficult for you to know if you really love a
person. You are so distracted by the physical chemistry that you are
unable to see if you are compatible in other areas. Avoiding s*x
prevents this from happening.
5. No unwanted pregnancy: Most couples, when dating and having s*x, do a
lot to prevent unwanted pregnancy since they are not yet able to make
that ultimate commitment.
Even with the attempts, unwanted pregnancies do occur and this would
lead to them making drastic decisions like abortions or even a marriage
that neither partner is ready for. Holding off completely cancels out
the likelihood of unwanted pregnancies and you can just focus on being
together.
