Editor’s Note: As women, we’re pretty picky when it comes to guys. We
all have our list of deal breakers and don’ts that make us shy away
from certain guys. But what do men steer clear of when it comes to
women? Below, an AskMen.com columnist who calls himself “The Player”
(ahem) counsels men based on his vast dating experience. Find out which
types of women he tossed out…then keep this inside info in mind on your
next trip to the bar.
When pursuing your lady, use this as a guide
— The Player’s list of five types of women you should avoid. The Player
has encountered many types of women in his existence, so who better to
make a list than someone who’s been through the entire book? Don’t worry
though, this list isn’t gospel — it simply offers a few guidelines to
keep you from meeting Dr. Jekyll, but dating Mrs. Hyde… proceed at your
own discretion.
The Smart-Ass
Every man likes
an articulate woman, a girl who can voice her opinion, sound
intelligent and impress your friends with a philosophical debate on the
downward spiral of modern politics. OK, maybe that’s pushing it a bit,
but a woman with verbal confidence can be a hell of a turn-on. But let’s
be realistic — while it’s always nice to date someone who is
charismatic and well-versed, it’s something quite different to date a
woman who beats the opinionated war drum.
Unfortunately, these
types exist, and for those who haven’t had the privilege of strapping on
your helmet and hunkering down for a verbal assault, you’re definitely
not missing out. Everyone comes from different wombs, so why does she
seem to get angry with you when you can’t agree? Some women simply like
to test you to see how well you stand up for yourself; others just like
to exert their own power. The Smart-Ass exposes your intellectual
weaknesses and will subsequently cut you down because of it. This is a
type to avoid at all costs, as she will make the rest of your evening
miserable while she stomps on your heart with an egomaniacal boot.
The Psycho
What is it about women who feel the need to call their man 10 times a
day? More importantly, what is the guy going to tell a woman that he
didn’t just talk about an hour ago? The Psycho will disrupt the balance
you have in your day between work and home. She will meld your personal
life with your business life, and make it clear to you that she exists
and is planting her rump right in the middle of your daily agenda.
What’s worse, if you tell her to stop being so obsessive and dependent,
she’ll completely deny any obsession she has. She will see it as a sign
that she has to work harder to win you over, and then she’ll end up
bothering you more. See the vicious cycle here? The Psycho will never
give up, and will drown you in her own insecurities about relationships
and life. If you find yourself in this predicament, I encourage you to
take the blue pill and wake up from your impending nightmare.
The Rebound
This type of woman is probably the most notorious on this list. You’ve
heard the warnings to avoid being the “rebound” guy, and it’s a proven
piece of advice. But yet, so many of us mistakenly fall for a woman
without having a clue about her past relationships. When we encounter a
beautiful woman who makes a hell of a first impression, the attraction
we feel is clockwork human behavior.
We seem to skip over our judgments
in the hope that this will be love at first sight. But in this day and
age, we are more often than not led down the wrong path, and what guys
see as a blessed relationship is really just a temporary comfort for
her.
The
Rebound knows you are a good guy, so don’t think you’re failing the
test. However, you’ve shown up at the right place at the wrong time —
the invitation said seven, but you arrived at six. You’re too early, and
she’s not ready. It’s difficult to offer any advice on how to pinpoint
these types of women, but a good indicator is how persistent her friends
are in trying to set her up with you, and how reluctant she is to do
it, much to the chagrin of her friends. If you sense reluctance, trust
your instinct. Don’t bite.
The Gold Digger
It
doesn’t take a genius to know that wooing a woman requires a trifocal
effort of body, soul and spending power. As standard romantic
procedures, you’re going to have to take her for dinner, buy her
flowers, whisk her away to the mountains for the weekend, and show her
that the world is your oyster and she’s the pearl. But if I can give a
word of caution to my free-spending comrades out there (I’m guilty of
this too), make damn sure she’s actually enjoying your company and not
just your wallet.
If you start to notice that she’s expecting you to pay
for everything but the kitchen sink, your credit card bill should be
enough of a red flag to warrant an emergency landing.
Here’s some
sound advice — if you APPROACH A WOMANand the first words out of her
mouth are “I’ll have a Vodka Seven,” chances are she’s probably out to
score some freebies, so proceed with caution. If her friends show up and
start ordering drinks as well, there’s a good chance they’ll all
dissipate into the crowd once they’ve been served, leaving you with the
tab.
Avoid the Gold Digger type at all costs. Like the old proverb goes,
you can’t buy happiness, and a woman who thinks otherwise isn’t worth
your time.
Ms. Right
It was not too long ago that I had to end a relationship with this type
of woman, much to my disappointment. She had a bevy of outstanding
qualities, but her inability to accept a different opinion ultimately
led to a breakup. Every time we got together, she would declare her
astuteness and would never take my advice because it was always wrong.
Ms. Right is, well, stubbornly set in her ways — she’s correct about
everything, and if you even so much as make an unfavorable whisper,
she’ll lash out at you with the voraciousness of a python.
The sad part
is, Ms. Right types are hard to change, as their personal pride tends to
get in the way of understanding others and the world around her, so all
you can really do is avoid these women. She may have been spoiled as a
child, or perhaps she has just hung around too many snotty girlfriends
for her own good. Either way, the red flags on these women fly high.
Steer clear.
There’s Still Hope
With your
head now freshly crammed with the follies of the five sin-ettes, you’re
probably wondering if there are any types out there that are worth
pursuing. And my answer is: there most definitely are. You would be
doing yourself a disservice to look for the types of women to avoid.
Rather, find women that are your type and then decide whether to
continue the pursuit You can never go wrong by playing the field —
remember: not even trying is the biggest avoidance of all.
